up148 wrote:Shock value, stupid, no taste and a dozen more.................take your pick. And women wonder why men treat them like objects and why they get harassed (again not saying it's right), just saying.............................
BH
I agree with you fully. There is some responsibility when "putting oneself out there" (literally) to not get so shocked and awed when a man is looking at your bosom, for example, and you respond by accusing him of
objectifying you. Well, it is
objects you are presenting with all kinds of fabric arrangements (or the lack of presence), colors, jewels (for that extra sparkle and lookahere value.....(.did I leave anyhting out?) to which I would add: vapid, vacuous, and vain.
If a woman wants a demure, tasteful, non-cheap, and non-ogling effect, she can wear something chosen for its value in presenting her as non-"objectifiable," yet still attractive and even beautiful. A string bikini is a choice, as is a thong. Some men are non-stoppable, out there, so it makes sense to be a little thoughtful in the presentation, I believe, and in ones intention.
Some women apparently had asked themselves what men were after, and what they had to meet that requirement. Take for example, Rita Hayworth (Think: "Gilda");' Sophia Loren; Marilyn Monroe (Think: "Some Like It Hot"). They
knew exactly what men were after and used that knowledge with great skill in bringing men to-heal. They made millions just by saying "Hi!" in their own particular way. No phony protests or compliant about being objectified . They smiled , pointed the way, and collected their checks, and rightly so.